I want to thank all of you for your kind messages and well wishes I get from this blog, to my email, Twitter, Facebook and even Keek after our Romantika episodes last night. I’m sorry I can’t reply to each and everyone of you. Thank you again for your love and support.
We love you too!!
Today, April 5, 2013 marked the 33rd year my parents were married. And yesterday was my mom’s birthday and this year is extra special. After more than 30 years of teaching, now she’s no more going to school!! (She’s a teacher, y’all) She’s officially a pensioner!! My dad is really happy he finally has my mom staying at home with him. I can see it from his eyes that he is genuinely happy about it. “Abah dah suruh maa berenti kerja laamer dah, finally pencen pun..” he told me yesterday.
I’m just plain happy for both of them.
Marriage is a lot of work..
Wedding is fun, honeymoon phase is a.w.e.s.o.m.e. but marriage is really a lot of work! You’re juggling your work, daily house chores, children and husband every single day. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, you’re killing yourself slowly inside because you barely have time for yourself.
Whenever I see an old couple walking together holding hands, I really envy them. I want be like them. Even after soooo long, it’s still the same person they are walking with, same hand they are holding and they never get tired. Isn’t that sweet?
To me, marriage is about two people committed themselves to each other, sharing the same desire to spend their lifetime together, and willingness to be there for one another. In Al-Quran, it’s clearly stated “They are clothing for you and you’re clothing for them..” (Al-Baqarah, verse 187). Like our clothing that covers and protect our body, couples defend each other’s honour. They protect and enhance each other’s beauty while shielding that which must be hidden, according to Allah’s rules.
To maa and abah, Happy 33rd Wedding Anniversary. May Allah granted Jannah to both of you. Thank you for being there for each other. Thank you for giving us, the children a good example of what marriage is all about. We love you both!
OK, I’ve been receiving a lot of complaint through my twitter lately.. that I’m not updating my blog!!
Hehe.. You know why?
It’s because of this..
I’m so addicted to this new social media apps. It’s not really new but somehow I just discovered it. My intention was to follow Kim Kardashian!! Hahaha.. yeah, I know.. kinda bimbo But I ending up keek-ing myself!!
Basicly, Keek is like twitter but only video in it. Maximum video length is 36 seconds. You can update anything. Whatever you feel like putting up in the cyber world. I’ve been updating videos on Bella and Tasha for quite a few.. Kinda fun you know. Even Siti Nurhaliza just started her Keek account 2 days ago!! Haha..
See you in my Keek world, Keek-ers!!
I’ve changed my blog’s theme. Big or not?? Easy to read, right??
Anyway, this time I’m reposting this write-up I found on a FB page. It’s about relationship. Since I’m only married for 2 years plus, nothing much I can write on my own. Even if I wrote it, you wouldn’t believe me.. I know!! Haha..
This article is from an FB page Beautiful [Me]
Beautifully written to remind us about appreciating our partner. Love is more than a feeling, it’s a decision. I have many youngsters writing to me about wanting to get married and build a family after reading my blog!! (Homaigawd!!! What have I done??!!) Sustaining a relationship / marriage is a lot of hard work. Trust me!! Trying to change your partner is definitely not an option. Looking for a perfect person will take you forever. But learning to accept the other person as-he-is saves you from a lot of heart ache.
AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here’s the answer…
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..
Much love.. XOXO