Premature Empty Nest Syndrome

Empty Nest Syndrome

Definition: a feeling of grief and loneliness parents may feel when their children leave home for the first time, such as to live on their own or to attend a college or university.


You all know what premature is, right?

Last night, Bella and her cousins decided to have a sleep over at their Jiddah’s house. (Jiddah = grandmother) These kids are less than 10 years old, people. I thought we, the parents are supposed to make decision for them! But no, these kids decided to have a sleep over themselves.

This is B’s second time going for a sleep over. First one was a few month back with her cousins. I was nervous and unable to fall asleep that night and now she wants to go again! Urghhhh… it still hurts!

B actually came to me last night and tell me that she is going to sleep over at her Jiddah’s house herself. The way she spoke to me was very mature and convincing. She goes “Mommy, I wanna go to Jiddah’s house to sleep over with my cousins tonight. You don’t have to worry. I will come back tomorrow. I will take care of myself, ok mommy? Please..”

I feel like my relationship with B is like Lorelai and Rory of Gilmore Girls! Bella is definitely Rory, the mature kid who always takes care of her a-little-cuckoo mother. Haha..


I’m not worried about B. I know she can take care of herself. My problem is, I can’t imagine the little girl that was once my little baby now is going to have a sleep over and it is NOT with me. Urrghhh…

Hubsy said to me last night… “Thats why we have to have a lot of children. 10 if possible because once they grew up, they will leave the house. If we can have twins and then another twins and then another twins, that will be faster…”

Wahhh… so sneaky my husband dropping me a hint!! Hahahaha..

I want to tell him that is definitely wrong reason to have more children but then I thought my own excuse to have more children is I want to have a lot of family members, children and grandchildren  in our house during Hari Raya. Then our Raya will be super happening. Isn’t it nice?

But that also doesn’t sound very right to have more children 😝

Anyway, as long as me and S are still on the same page, I believe things will work out well. Rezeki will come. I may look like hantu kak limah with 10 children in the house but I know I will be happy. A happy hantu kak limah!

While I’m writing this, Bella is still at her Jiddah’s house. No phone call yet. Too early, maybe she is still sleeping but I’m all up and ready to fetch her any time! Hehe..

Have a good weekend all!

Enjoy your last week of 2016!!



7 thoughts on “Premature Empty Nest Syndrome

  1. Coincidence! My 3yo daughter and 5yo son left me last night for the 1st time ever sleeping over at my sil’s accompanied by their grandma. God bless their soul hahhahaa… i can sleep im peace and the feeling is awesome but i still miss them every second!

  2. Reason Dr. S nak anak ramai tu sama dengan saya. bab twins tu pun sama. Licik betul mereka ni kan. Hahahaha. Tapi saya pun okay jer anak ramai (tapi 8 cukup la, 4 more to go). Anyway, Tasha tak ikut sleepover?

  3. And now, you and Dr S are blessed with upcoming twin. MashaAllah, this is a great news and doa kalian telah termakbul. Allahuma ameen. Congratulations Dr Halina & Dr S.M

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