Marriage: A Good Advice

Last October 10th was our 3rd year wedding anniversary.
It still feels like yesterday when we just got married. I don’t know what happened, and suddenly we have these two kids running in the house!! Haha..
Good time really flies…
Personally, I love to read books or article about marriage. I would love to know how happy couple stays happy together. And recently, a good friend of mine sent me this good piece of advice.. and I want to share this with all of you. To me, this piece is beautifully written with heart filled with pure love and faith..
Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start. 
 
A school where you will never graduate. 
 
A school without a break or a free period. 
 
A school where no one is allowed to drop out. 
 
A school which you will have to attend every day of your life. 
 
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays. 
 
A school founded by the Almighty:
1. On the foundation of love, 
2. The walls made of trust,
3. The door made of acceptance, 
4. The windows made of understanding. 
5. The furniture made of blessings. 
6. The roof made of faith. 
 
Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.
 
Even at times of a storm, don’t be unwise and run outside.
 
Remember this school is the safest place to be. 
 
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. 
 
Never forget the C-word, communicate, communicate, communicate with your classmate and with the Principal.
 
If you find something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate. The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together. 
 
Do not forget to study, study, study the Noble Book (the main textbook in this school). 
 
Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way.
 
Sometimes you will feel like not attending class, yet you have to.
 
When tempted to quit find the courage and continue. 
 
Some tests and exams may be tough but remember the Principal knows how much you can bear. 
 
Still, it is one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day. 
 
Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject. 
 
After all the years of being theoretical about it, now you have a chance to practice it. 
 
To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all. 
 
Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse but remember: “This class doesn’t involve a person who is not permitted into it”! If you invite your mother or father or your friends to this class,   or anyone who is not allowed to be there, you will fail the exam. 
 
It is you who should attend and it is you who will pass. 
 
Its your choice today:” build it or break it”. 
 
May the Almighty bless us all. Aameen..
XO
P/S: Pic was taken during our recent family photoshoot for Keluarga magazine, December Issue 2013. Credit to Miss Wany Idris.

77 thoughts on “Marriage: A Good Advice”

  4. tarikh ulang tahun perkahwinana Dr.Halina.. same tarikh dengan tarikh lahir saya…so senang nk ingat….
    HAPPY FAMILY…

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  10. Congratulations on your 3rd wedding anniversary. May ur love & marriage
    blossom till Jannah. Subhanallah. . Thank you so much Dr. Halina for sharing the beautifully written piece of advise.

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  14. salaam dr halina. i just celebrated my 13th anniversary on 8/10. its a very good advice. after 13 yrs blessed wth 3 dghtrs its still feel like we just got married. happy 3rd anniversary to you n hubby.

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      1. thank u for your reply. hugs n kisses to big B n not so little anymore T. such an adorable kids u have n more to come. u look slim. keep it up dear.

  16. I thought I’ve already give up from school n decide to quit but when reading this, I think I should do something about it coz principle will really2 mad if I give up so easily….

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  18. Not everyone had a chance to build the school. I am still searching for my school and won’t give up at this age. Congrates Dr halina. May Allah the almighty blesses your family always

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  20. halina, i read your blog on bella and i think my baby looks a lil bit like her.. he has the shape of bella’s face when he smiles..

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  21. Happy Anniversary Dr…same date with my anniversary too but mine yg ke4 plus I got 2nd baby on 6th October…jgn laju sgt doc(baby) susah nak kejar hehehe

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  22. i envy you dr ! but in a good way hehe still boleh manage your family well eventhough jadi dr sangat bz kan ! i’m a medic student pon rasa tak larat dah nak habiskan course -.-

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  24. Tahniah Doktor. Kita berkongsi tahun perkahwinan yg sama. Tapi kami belum dikurniakan zuriat. Insya Allah akan datang mungkin. You’re so lucky. Tahniah sekali lagi. By the way, you look slimmer in that picture. 😉

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  26. Happy anniversary dr halina. I adore u so much.. kita kahwin pada hari yg sama..1st bby boy pun lahir july tp awal cikit dari bella.. then 2nd bby girl bulan may 2013. Doc cepat sgt tak sempat nk kejar :p. Hihi.. Anyway may Allah always bless our marriage. 🙂

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  30. Rumahtangga adalah sekolah yang mengurniakan ijazah sebelum persekolahan bermula.

    Di sekolah ini, pengajian kamu tidak akan pernah tamat.

    Di sekolah ini, tiada waktu rehat mahupun waktu senggang.

    Di sekolah ini, tiada seorang pun dibenarkan tercicir.

    Di sekolah ini, tiada satu hari pun kamu boleh ponteng.

    Di sekolah ini, tiada cuti sakit mahupun cuti sekolah.

    Sekolah ini asasnya Yang Maha Besar
    Cerucuknya cinta,
    Dindingnya percaya,
    Pintunya menerima,
    Tingkapnya timbang rasa
    Perabotnya rahmat daripada-Nya
    Atapnya yakin kepada-Nya

    Sebelum kamu terlupa, kamu hanya pelajar di sekolah itu, Yang Maha Esa-lah pengetuanya.

    Ketika ribut petir melanda, usah hilang akal dan melangkah keluar.

    Ingatlah, di sekolah itulah tempat yang paling selamat.

    Usah sesekali masuk tidur sebelum siap semua tugasan sekolah bagi hari itu.

    Usah sesekali alpa untuk berhubung, terus berhubung dan terus-terus berhubung dengan rakan sekelasmu dan dengan Pengetuamu.

    Jika kamu dapati rakan sekelasmu tidak memahami, ingatlah yang dia juga sedang belajar, dia belum lagi tamat belajar. Yang Maha Besar sedang mengujinya, maka jadikanlah ia sebagai ujian buatmu juga, dan sama-samalah harunginya.

    Usah lupa untuk mengaji, terus mengaji, dan tidak henti mengaji Buku Suci (buku teks utama di sekolah ini).

    Mulakan harimu dengan bersolat jemaah, begitulah juga dengan akhiran harimu.

    Kadang kala kamu terasa seperti tidak mahu ke kelas, namun mahu tidak mahu kamu perlu hadir tanpa culas.

    Jika terdetik untuk menamatkan persekolahan, carilah kekuatan dan teruslah bersekolah.

    Ada ujian dan peperiksaan yang sukar, namun ingatlah yang Pengetua tahu akan kemampuanmu.

    Hakikatnya, itulah antara sekolah terbaik di muka bumi; rasa gembira, tenang, dan suka mengiringi setiap hari.

    Bermacam-macam subjek ditawarkan, namun Cinta-lah subjek utamanya.

    Setelah sekian lama sekadar memahami teori, kini masa untuk amali.

    Dicintai adalah rasa yang indah, namun mencintai adalah anugerah terindah.

    Rumahtangga sekolah cinta, maka cintailah rakan sekelasmu itu. Dan ingatlah: “Kelas ini tidak perlukan sesiapa yang tiada kaitan!” Jika kamu menjemput ibu atau bapamu, atau sesiapapun yang tidak perlu ke dalam kelas itu, kamu akan gagal dalam ujian.

    Kamu yang sepatutnya hadir kerana kamu yang akan ambil ujian dan lulus ujian itu.

    Pilihan kini di tangan kamu: “bina atau rebah”

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  31. Happy Anniversary Dr. semoga ikatan perkahwinan Dr.kekal till jannah.
    suka tengok family dr. yang sentiasa happy.. wish you guys terus terusan happy okay!
    p/s: bella and tasha comel! 🙂

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  38. Love this piece of advice! Keep them coming…

    Btw, on your 3rd anniversary (10 Oct 2013), I bumped into Jon A. McBride, US Astronaut, at McKinsey networking event at Ritz Carlton, Singapore.

    When I told him that I come from Malaysia, he said that he knew Sheikh Muzaffar & he attended your wedding in KL. Jon is such a warm & funny guy. He insisted that I send his regards to Sheikh Muzaffar. So, here I am with his regards for your hubby 🙂

    -Rose Mahmud

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  41. Congrats Dr. Halina..and great advice too!! You might want to read ‘Men Are from Mars, Women are from Venus’. A lot of married couples suggested it for me.

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  44. i also celebrate my 3rd anniversary in Oct, but on 1st Oct.. 🙂
    now only one kid running in d house..2nd one will be birth on this Jan insyaAllah..hehe

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  48. sorry late..nway happy anniversary dr halina..i really admire you..n now u seems to b slimmer than before..yeayy..tips pls..hehe

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  55. I cried reading this. My marriage has been rocky ever since i gave birth. Thanks for reminding me again why i shouldn’t run away from school. Hope i will have a happy family like yours some day.

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  56. Wah a very good advise…….. I should always remember the C-word..minta copy, paste n print your friend advise ye Dr…Mood sekarang syukur pada Allah atas nikmat sebuah perkahwinan ini

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  61. D best advise… tq dr. I like ‘we are d student n D Almighty is d principal, some tests n exams may be tough but remember D Almighty know how much u can bear, u should attend n it is u who will pass.’yes…it’s yo choice..build it or break it…let me share this beautiful words k……dr.

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