The Deadly Question!

Me: “Do I look fat? Am I fat? Do you think I’m fat?”

Silence. Then he giggled..

Me: “I’m serious.. Do you think I’ve gained some weight?”

He giggled..

Hubsy: “Pls dont ask me silly question..”

Me: “But S, I need your honest opinion.. Do you think I’m fat..?”

Giggled and giggled and giggled.. Still no answer..

Me: “I promise I tak marah.. I just wanna know…”

Giggled and giggled..

Hubsy: “Please dont ask me that kind of question..”

Giggled again..

Smart move!!

Gentleman.. If your partner asked you the deadly question..

Rule #1) Do NOT answer with a YES.. (What were you thinking??  )

Rule #2) Do NOT answer with a NO either!! (Hahah.. You must be mad!! )

Either way, you are in trouble. Just try your best to distract her! Good Luck!

XO

Marriage: A Good Advice

Last October 10th was our 3rd year wedding anniversary.
It still feels like yesterday when we just got married. I don’t know what happened, and suddenly we have these two kids running in the house!! Haha..
Good time really flies…
Personally, I love to read books or article about marriage. I would love to know how happy couple stays happy together. And recently, a good friend of mine sent me this good piece of advice.. and I want to share this with all of you. To me, this piece is beautifully written with heart filled with pure love and faith..
Marriage is a school where you get the certificate before you start. 
 
A school where you will never graduate. 
 
A school without a break or a free period. 
 
A school where no one is allowed to drop out. 
 
A school which you will have to attend every day of your life. 
 
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays. 
 
A school founded by the Almighty:
1. On the foundation of love, 
2. The walls made of trust,
3. The door made of acceptance, 
4. The windows made of understanding. 
5. The furniture made of blessings. 
6. The roof made of faith. 
 
Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal. The Almighty is the principal.
 
Even at times of a storm, don’t be unwise and run outside.
 
Remember this school is the safest place to be. 
 
Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. 
 
Never forget the C-word, communicate, communicate, communicate with your classmate and with the Principal.
 
If you find something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate, remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate. The Almighty is not finished with him/her yet, so take it as a challenge and work on it together. 
 
Do not forget to study, study, study the Noble Book (the main textbook in this school). 
 
Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way.
 
Sometimes you will feel like not attending class, yet you have to.
 
When tempted to quit find the courage and continue. 
 
Some tests and exams may be tough but remember the Principal knows how much you can bear. 
 
Still, it is one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lesson of the day. 
 
Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject. 
 
After all the years of being theoretical about it, now you have a chance to practice it. 
 
To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all. 
 
Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse but remember: “This class doesn’t involve a person who is not permitted into it”! If you invite your mother or father or your friends to this class,   or anyone who is not allowed to be there, you will fail the exam. 
 
It is you who should attend and it is you who will pass. 
 
Its your choice today:” build it or break it”. 
 
May the Almighty bless us all. Aameen..
XO
P/S: Pic was taken during our recent family photoshoot for Keluarga magazine, December Issue 2013. Credit to Miss Wany Idris.

33 Years

Today, April 5, 2013 marked the 33rd year my parents were married. And yesterday was my mom’s birthday and this year is extra special. After more than 30 years of teaching, now she’s no more going to school!! (She’s a teacher, y’all) She’s officially a pensioner!! My dad is really happy he finally has my mom staying at home with him. I can see it from his eyes that he is genuinely happy about it. “Abah dah suruh maa berenti kerja laamer dah, finally pencen pun..” he told me yesterday.

I’m just plain happy for both of them.

Marriage is a lot of work..

Wedding is fun, honeymoon phase is a.w.e.s.o.m.e. but marriage is really a lot of work! You’re juggling your work, daily house chores, children and husband every single day. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, you’re killing yourself slowly inside because you barely have time for yourself.

Whenever I see an old couple walking together holding hands, I really envy them. I want be like them. Even after soooo long, it’s still the same person they are walking with, same hand they are holding and they never get tired. Isn’t that sweet?

To me, marriage is about two people committed themselves to each other, sharing the same desire to spend their lifetime together, and willingness to be there for one another. In Al-Quran, it’s clearly stated “They are clothing for you and you’re clothing for them..” (Al-Baqarah, verse 187). Like our clothing that covers and protect our body, couples defend each other’s honour. They protect and enhance each other’s beauty while shielding that which must be hidden, according to Allah’s rules.

To maa and abah, Happy 33rd Wedding Anniversary. May Allah granted Jannah to both of you. Thank you for being there for each other. Thank you for giving us, the children a good example of what marriage is all about. We love you both!

XOXO

Love & Relationship

Hi all!!

I’ve changed my blog’s theme. Big or not?? Easy to read, right?? ;)

Anyway, this time I’m reposting this write-up I found on a FB page. It’s about relationship. Since I’m only married for 2 years plus, nothing much I can write on my own. Even if I wrote it, you wouldn’t believe me.. I know!! Haha..

This article is from an FB page Beautiful [Me]

Beautifully written to remind us about appreciating our partner. Love is more than a feeling, it’s a decision. I have many youngsters writing to me about wanting to get married and build a family after reading my blog!! (Homaigawd!!! What have I done??!!) Sustaining a relationship / marriage is a lot of hard work. Trust me!! Trying to change your partner is definitely not an option. Looking for a perfect person will take you forever. But learning to accept the other person as-he-is saves you from a lot of heart ache.

AM I WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer…

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because:

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..

Much love.. XOXO