I want to thank all of you for your kind messages and well wishes I get from this blog, to my email, Twitter, Facebook and even Keek after our Romantika episodes last night. I’m sorry I can’t reply to each and everyone of you. Thank you again for your love and support.
We love you too!!
Today, April 5, 2013 marked the 33rd year my parents were married. And yesterday was my mom’s birthday and this year is extra special. After more than 30 years of teaching, now she’s no more going to school!! (She’s a teacher, y’all) She’s officially a pensioner!! My dad is really happy he finally has my mom staying at home with him. I can see it from his eyes that he is genuinely happy about it. “Abah dah suruh maa berenti kerja laamer dah, finally pencen pun..” he told me yesterday.
I’m just plain happy for both of them.
Marriage is a lot of work..
Wedding is fun, honeymoon phase is a.w.e.s.o.m.e. but marriage is really a lot of work! You’re juggling your work, daily house chores, children and husband every single day. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, you’re killing yourself slowly inside because you barely have time for yourself.
Whenever I see an old couple walking together holding hands, I really envy them. I want be like them. Even after soooo long, it’s still the same person they are walking with, same hand they are holding and they never get tired. Isn’t that sweet?
To me, marriage is about two people committed themselves to each other, sharing the same desire to spend their lifetime together, and willingness to be there for one another. In Al-Quran, it’s clearly stated “They are clothing for you and you’re clothing for them..” (Al-Baqarah, verse 187). Like our clothing that covers and protect our body, couples defend each other’s honour. They protect and enhance each other’s beauty while shielding that which must be hidden, according to Allah’s rules.
To maa and abah, Happy 33rd Wedding Anniversary. May Allah granted Jannah to both of you. Thank you for being there for each other. Thank you for giving us, the children a good example of what marriage is all about. We love you both!
This one goes out to the students out there.. especially medical students!!
My advice is.. live life to the fullest… but you must know your responsibilities and limitations!!
These are my girls.. L-R: B’s mommy (that’s me!), Dr Reyhana (now mother of cute little Ezra) and Dr Elly (mother of two handsome prince, Ferhzan & Ferhanz)
Back then, we struggled thinking we have to be the best student to be a doctor.. but looking back, what really takes to be a good doctor besides knowledge is the attitude. Attitude plays a huge role.. You can be the best student in your class but without the right attitude and caring heart towards your patients.. You’re just another doctor.
So kids, have the right attitude, make sure you really want to help others, otherwise life as a doctor is not gonna be easy..because all your life is about helping others.. My husband always reminded me when I was a houseman (he was only my boyfriend at that time…) “These people, it’s not their choice to be sick.. but you chose to be a doctor. Treat them nicely…”
Yeah.. life as a houseman is another chapter in my life, it’s really tiring. If I’m not oncall, I would be in the hospital from 7am to 10pm everyday.. yes, everyday. If I’m oncall, 24 hours I’m stuck behind the hospital walls.. Not easy but do-able. I didn’t complain much coz I barely had time to complain. Hahaha..
Thanks to the people who were always with me behind those time..
In just a few hours, we will say goodbye to 2011 and hello 2012!! Yup, just a few hours time.. time really flies now days, right?? 2011 is a big year for me, many things have happened and I have learned a few things about myself, life and people around me..
Lesson #1 : Now I do understand the meaning of unconditional love.. and that is a mother’s love to her child. I’m not really sure about father though.. hahahha.. but I guess it is almost the same (yup, almost but NOT same!!) *wink* I, myself amazed how much I could love her!! (and how much space she took in our house despite her size so little.. hahaha)
Lesson #2 : First year of marriage is tough!! People called it the adjustment year.. but love conquers all. Maturity counts! I would never be like this when I am much younger I guess.. (I am very hard-headed.. trust me!) Heheheh.. I am glad I got married at quite a stable age. I’m more stable emotionally and financially but the downturn is my egg count is running low too!! Hahaha.. Must work hard to achieve my husband’s target of 10 children!! See.. Bella is supporting her parents.. she wants more adik already.. kaki dah masuk mulut dah
Lesson #3 : If either one of you wins in an argument between each other, it’s a losing battle for your marriage.
Lesson #4 : Sabda Nabi Muhammad SAW: “Sekiranya aku boleh menyuruh seseorang sujud kepada seseorang manusia, nescaya aku akan suruh perempuan sujud kepada suaminya.” (Di riwayatkan oleh A.Hurairah) . Amazing isn’t it.. I have no comment, just memorize the hadith, ladies!
In general.. year 2011 has been a kind to me. Alhamdullillah. Owh, and not forgotten my little hijrah!! I want to strive to a be a better muslimah in 2012. I wanna be a better person, wife, mommy, doctor in whatever way I can..
Happy new year from all of us.. (urmm.. no family pic with my selendang coz baru 3 hari blaja pakai nie pun Bella looks constipated! LoL..) May 2012 brings the best for all of us!! InsyaAllah..