Behind a Successful Woman…

Still in raya mode..?

Me no.. First day of raya, we decided to stay in and sleep..

Hahahah.. seriously. Sleep. That’s all. Meaningful.

Day 2 raya, I was already back at work..

Today, day 3 raya…

I’m oncall tomorrow, so today I have to vacuum, mop, laundry, ironing and the list goes on and on and on..

Have you heard the old saying…

Behind a successful man, there’s a woman..

But do you know..

Behind a successful woman, there’s a (reliable) maid!!

Trust me!


My beloved Kak Yah is probably having fun enjoying beautiful scenery in Ireland.. I heard she went shopping at Kildare Village.. Have fun Kak Yah!!

Yes I mean it!

And.. on top of these house chores.. Bella and Tasha keeps following me around, they are like my tails.. Talking tails!! Haha.. The girls really drives me crazy but I love them to bits!! They probably think I’m mad because I hug, tickle and kiss them after all the screaming scene.. Sometimes, even I myself think I’m mad.. Hehe..

OK, gotta go back to work. TTYL



I always thought I’ll be one of the cooler parent than my husband.. You know, the one who has less expectations for the children.. Let them play (but no sepah allowed ok!! Only in the play room!! Hahah.. ) no need to do worksheet, just colour and draw crap on a piece of paper… They are just kids, right?! My husband, on the other hand, made B goes to Kumon at the age of 3 plus ok!! Hahaha… We argued but he had a point, so OK.. He wins..

Anyway, last night.. the moon was beautiful. Full, bright moon in the black sky. My girls love it. We were enjoying the moon view from our bedroom.. Then I asked B..

Me: Bella, you think people can live on the moon?

I don’t know why but deep down inside, I’m expecting answers like no gravity or no oxygen.. no trees.. You know, something scientific.. Haha..

B: No mommy, it’s too high…


Then it hits me.. she is just a child. She will only turn 4 this month and I am not much different from my husband. We are just at the same kiasu level..


Happy Mother’s Day… A Belated One!

Happy Mother’s Day to all mommies out there. I know I’m like a little late.. but I did not forget!! Happy Mother’s Day to my mother, she is definitely the best mom I can ever wish for. I may not realised this when I was a kid.. but now, I know what she did for me is pure love. May Allah grant her with Jannah. Ameen…

I hope all of you had a great Mother’s Day weekend :)

The day before Mother’s Day, I was oncall. Many sad things happened. A mother of 3 passed away because of dengue. Another lady who just gave birth to her first child passed away due to unforeseen circumstances.. It’s just a crazy busy and extremely depressing call for me and my colleagues. I can’t imagine what their children had to go through. They will be traumatise every Mother’s Day thinking their mother passed away one day before Mother’s Day.. The day that they should celebrate with joy and love turned into a funeral of their own mother. MasyaAllah… May Allah grant these mothers’ Jannah..

When I got home the next day.. I got a little surprise from my girls.. They made a card for me! It’s not big. Nothing fancy but I really touched my heart. I think my heart skipped a beat when I read the card that B made for me..


She is only three turning four in July.. Forgive her attempts to draw a person there..! I think the tall yellow person is me and the short orange girl is her.. and That little one down the card is little T! Haha.. I think it’s cute (I’m bias I know.. Haha..)

And T made this…

Well, it’s actually a 3D paper flower in a pot!! She doesn’t know how to write as yet.. but she crumples really well! Hahahah..

And with that..  They just made my day..


Deepavali 2010

Deepavali 2010 is special to me.. That was about one month plus after we got married.. It was somewhere in early November..
In my lifetime, I never had any headache before. Trust me.. Never! But a week before Deepavali.. I started to have headache.. morning, day and night.. and crazy mood swing (How can a newly wed has mood swing?? I was supposed to be in honeymoon phase!!)

Then I started to think.. what could possibly when wrong.. like some brain pathology, or some viral infection.. some hormonal imbalance.. I already made a checklist to rule out my illness, until my colleague told me to do Urine Pregnancy Test..

I gulped! Is that possible? It has only been a month?? So, I went to the pharmacy, and I bought like 5 different brand of UPT!! Hahahha.. I just wanna make sure there’s no false positive happening here!! 5!! For Godsake!! Hahahha… And no, I didn’t tell my new husband yet.. I was scared!!

Deepavali morning, I was on call..

(Come to think about it, I’m always on call on Deepavali!! Today pun on call!!)

Woke up early, according to my gynaecology knowledge, urine for pregnancy test has to be done early in the morning.. First urine in the morning because that is when the beta HCG hormone is at its highest level in the urine.. I drank glasses of water to get the system running ;) Hehe..

So, to the toilet I go… First time peeing on the stick!! Woohooo… Of course I didn’t manage to complete all 5 sticks!! Hahahah.. Only 1. Geezzzzz..

I closed my eyes, no actually I peeped with one eye.. it took a while for the blue line to come out.. First line is out. Then there was a faint second line. I fainted for 3 seconds! Two lines.. two lines.. two lines.. Breathe Halina breathe… This is huge. I better breathe.. It was surreal. Then I get ready to work.. I was on call remember. Hubsy was already awake. He was in front of the computer reading news. I told him… “I think I’m pregnant” and showed him the stick that I peed on. (Haha.. cleaned of course!!) I think his jaw literally dropped… and the rest is history..

Here we are.. 4 years later..

Blessed..Photo credit to Rashidee Azman 


Happy Deepavali to all who celebrating.. Wishing you a wealthy, prosperous and delightful Deepavali. Happy holiday to the rest!!


4 Advices on From Our 4 Years of Marriage

Praise to Allah for all these years of good health and happiness. It has been 4 years of marriage for us. It has been a wonderful journey for me. I’ve learnt so much.. and missed  a lot more ;) Thank you S for all the love and patience. Thank you for always being there for me. Thank you for being a wonderful father to my children. I’m just blessed. Alhamdullilah..

Photo credit to Fuad Topa of CandidSyndrome

Many things I’ve learned along the way.. but since this is only our 4th year, I will share with you 4 lessons I’ve learned ;)


First year of marriage is challenging!! It’s the year of adapting.. First few months are honeymoon phase but when the reality hits.. That’s when the challenges started. Most couples come from different background. Different up bringing. Different lifestyle. During courtship, we only see the best of each other. When our partner is at his/her best. But married and living together opens up a lot more. That’s the phase where you really get to know your spouse. The good and the not-so-good. We are only humans, remember!! 100% human, 0% angel. And we are no exception to that. We learn. We fight. We make up. And we adapt.


Trust. No love can survive without trust. Period.


Communicate. Just find time for each other. Talk, text, send pictures or FaceTime. Just do it. Even a small tiny matter. Like “Dah sampai?” or “Had lunch?”. It’s not about being nosy but to me it’s because I care. And he knows it. But ladies, there a fine line between care and clingy. Sometimes it can be misleading ;) Gotta be careful thou..


Respect. This is the most important lesson in a relationship. Men need respect, women need love. It sounds simple but sometimes we (urmm.. I sometimes) took it for granted. It’s ok not to win an argument. Think about long term investment.. NOT short term glory. Seriously, no point of winning if one of you gets hurt. Always remember to go back to #3. But.. when you are doing #3, no screaming. Talk nicely!! Hahaha..

I’m still learning. We all do.

I’m sooo in my mushy mushy mood today. Hehe.. I kept repeating our wedding video again and again. Can’t believe we made it this far.

Praise to Allah for this blessed life. I wish you all the same..


Finally.. The Official Launch of has come a long way since they started about a year ago. Both the co-founders, Dr Zahilah and Dr Foo has been working hard on this webpage to cater most of their readers out there. They are expanding really fast, and currently there are 27 members of doktorbudak to assist you in non-emergencies health issues for your child.

That’s Dr Zahilah and Dr Foo on their interview on

Part of the team..

Yesterday, they had an official launch of their webpage at the UrbanMom event at HighStreet, One Utama. The UrbanMom event will be extended until this coming Sunday. They have arranged many activities for parents out there..

Definitely these are NOT to be missed y’all!! Mark your calendar, book the date on your favourite topic to attend. There’s a lot more activities and booth at this UrbanMom event. I saw promotions on Wyeth’s S26 milk.. and Marie France BodyLine!! Hahaha.. We are UrbanMom, remember?? ;)

We are supporting in educating parents and caretaker out there!

Make your paediatrician your best friend, people!! They come in very handy ;)


Tasha is Unwell

Tasha is not well since middle of last week.. She was ok initially until the weekend where she turned  super clingy like UHU glue. She only wanted me to carry her. I literally spent the weekend carrying her around. She’s not eating well. Only half of her usual milk. And a a few sips of Dutch Lady chocolate milk.. and mangoes!! Yes, mangoes. Haha.. Rice, porridge and all, she doesn’t want..

I suspected it was only viral fever and usually viral fever is self-limiting and it will heal by itself after 3 to 4 days.. but her fever persisted until day 5 and in the morning of the fifth day, she had nose bleed.. Literally a ball of blood clot obstructing her right nostril when she woke up from sleep.

So, what did mommy do?

I freaked out, of course.

Me: OMG! You think Tasha has dengue?? *cry a river*

S: Maybe it’s just the weather. Kan panas skarang ni.. or probably because high pressure from sneezing, then her small vessels break. Don’t panic..

Me: You think so?

S: It’s ok. We’ll go check her blood after this.

Me: (mumbling sambil doa) Please Allah, take away her illness. I’ll take her place. She’s a little girl. This is too much for her *drama queen is back!!*

So, we went to the hospital in the afternoon. To draw blood is another drama.

Initially the plan was mommy hold Tasha while my colleague, Dr Kogi draw her blood. But I was a such pain in the a**! Haha.. I kept asking her, “is it ok?”, “can you see the vessels?”, “you think get get blood in one shot?”, “can ah?”

Hahaha… I will slap myself too, you know!!

Since I had too many questions, my husband took over.

It was a success, single attempt. *Of course kan Kogi!! Haha..* ” Thank you for bearing with me :D

Later, the blood result came out. It doesn’t look like dengue. Phewwwww…. InsyaAllah, it’s just a viral non-dengue fever. Alhamdullilah..

Today I’m at home. Took EL. Hubsy has events in Putrajaya and JB, B is at school, the kakak that help me at home is also unwell. So, It’s just Tasha and mommy today. Hope she gets better..