4 Advices on From Our 4 Years of Marriage

Praise to Allah for all these years of good health and happiness. It has been 4 years of marriage for us. It has been a wonderful journey for me. I’ve learnt so much.. and missed  a lot more ;) Thank you S for all the love and patience. Thank you for always being there for me. Thank you for being a wonderful father to my children. I’m just blessed. Alhamdullilah..

Photo credit to Fuad Topa of CandidSyndrome

Many things I’ve learned along the way.. but since this is only our 4th year, I will share with you 4 lessons I’ve learned ;)

#1

First year of marriage is challenging!! It’s the year of adapting.. First few months are honeymoon phase but when the reality hits.. That’s when the challenges started. Most couples come from different background. Different up bringing. Different lifestyle. During courtship, we only see the best of each other. When our partner is at his/her best. But married and living together opens up a lot more. That’s the phase where you really get to know your spouse. The good and the not-so-good. We are only humans, remember!! 100% human, 0% angel. And we are no exception to that. We learn. We fight. We make up. And we adapt.

#2

Trust. No love can survive without trust. Period.

#3

Communicate. Just find time for each other. Talk, text, send pictures or FaceTime. Just do it. Even a small tiny matter. Like “Dah sampai?” or “Had lunch?”. It’s not about being nosy but to me it’s because I care. And he knows it. But ladies, there a fine line between care and clingy. Sometimes it can be misleading ;) Gotta be careful thou..

#4

Respect. This is the most important lesson in a relationship. Men need respect, women need love. It sounds simple but sometimes we (urmm.. I sometimes) took it for granted. It’s ok not to win an argument. Think about long term investment.. NOT short term glory. Seriously, no point of winning if one of you gets hurt. Always remember to go back to #3. But.. when you are doing #3, no screaming. Talk nicely!! Hahaha..

I’m still learning. We all do.

I’m sooo in my mushy mushy mood today. Hehe.. I kept repeating our wedding video again and again. Can’t believe we made it this far.

Praise to Allah for this blessed life. I wish you all the same..

XO

Finally.. The Official Launch of doktorbudak.com

doktorbudak.com has come a long way since they started about a year ago. Both the co-founders, Dr Zahilah and Dr Foo has been working hard on this webpage to cater most of their readers out there. They are expanding really fast, and currently there are 27 members of doktorbudak to assist you in non-emergencies health issues for your child.

That’s Dr Zahilah and Dr Foo on their interview on doctorbudak.com

Part of the team..

Yesterday, they had an official launch of their webpage at the UrbanMom event at HighStreet, One Utama. The UrbanMom event will be extended until this coming Sunday. They have arranged many activities for parents out there..

Definitely these are NOT to be missed y’all!! Mark your calendar, book the date on your favourite topic to attend. There’s a lot more activities and booth at this UrbanMom event. I saw promotions on Wyeth’s S26 milk.. and Marie France BodyLine!! Hahaha.. We are UrbanMom, remember?? ;)

We are supporting doktorbudak.com in educating parents and caretaker out there!

Make your paediatrician your best friend, people!! They come in very handy ;)

X

Tasha is Unwell

Tasha is not well since middle of last week.. She was ok initially until the weekend where she turned  super clingy like UHU glue. She only wanted me to carry her. I literally spent the weekend carrying her around. She’s not eating well. Only half of her usual milk. And a a few sips of Dutch Lady chocolate milk.. and mangoes!! Yes, mangoes. Haha.. Rice, porridge and all, she doesn’t want..

I suspected it was only viral fever and usually viral fever is self-limiting and it will heal by itself after 3 to 4 days.. but her fever persisted until day 5 and in the morning of the fifth day, she had nose bleed.. Literally a ball of blood clot obstructing her right nostril when she woke up from sleep.

So, what did mommy do?

I freaked out, of course.

Me: OMG! You think Tasha has dengue?? *cry a river*

S: Maybe it’s just the weather. Kan panas skarang ni.. or probably because high pressure from sneezing, then her small vessels break. Don’t panic..

Me: You think so?

S: It’s ok. We’ll go check her blood after this.

Me: (mumbling sambil doa) Please Allah, take away her illness. I’ll take her place. She’s a little girl. This is too much for her *drama queen is back!!*

So, we went to the hospital in the afternoon. To draw blood is another drama.

Initially the plan was mommy hold Tasha while my colleague, Dr Kogi draw her blood. But I was a such pain in the a**! Haha.. I kept asking her, “is it ok?”, “can you see the vessels?”, “you think get get blood in one shot?”, “can ah?”

Hahaha… I will slap myself too, you know!!

Since I had too many questions, my husband took over.

It was a success, single attempt. *Of course kan Kogi!! Haha..* ” Thank you for bearing with me :D

Later, the blood result came out. It doesn’t look like dengue. Phewwwww…. InsyaAllah, it’s just a viral non-dengue fever. Alhamdullilah..

Today I’m at home. Took EL. Hubsy has events in Putrajaya and JB, B is at school, the kakak that help me at home is also unwell. So, It’s just Tasha and mommy today. Hope she gets better..

XO

Umrah Part 2

I believe many of you read the Part 1 of my umrah story.. Here comes part 2 ;)

But I’m not done yet with my camel story!! Haha.. Here’s a short video showing the camel farm that we went to.

You can see a Badwi guy walking in this video and their house in the white tent. If you notice, there was a bed, right in the middle of the desert! That’s a serious sunbathing going on there…

Regarding food for my girls, it’s quite easy to feed them there because my girls loves nasi mandy ( that is something like our nasi biryani) And when they are in the mood for breads, trust Arabs to serve 10 types of bread every meal and they eats lots of yogurt. Problem solved!!
Remember the part about Malaysian food in Makkah in my previous entry? Anyway, there’s only two Malaysian restaurants there. One is D’Saji, the Felda restaurant in Al-Safwah mall. I believe many of you who have been to Makkah may have find your way to this D’Saji restaurant. But do you know there’s another restaurant there inside the Al-Saraya Hotel!!  I bet you didn’t know this!! This hotel is situated next to the La Meridien hotel. It’s only a walking distance from Masjid Al-Haram, about 300 meters I would say. You can actually see La Meridien from the Masijidl Haram main entrance.
The guy in white jubah on the most right in the picture is the owner of this restaurant.
They serve good Malaysian food, ulam-ulam and sambal belacan there!!
Haaaa.. I even took the picture of the sambal. After a few days, I was already tired of Arab food. This is just what I need ;) Feels like home!! Apparently the owner of this restaurant also owns an Arab food restaurant here in Malaysia.
Any of you have tried Al-Edrus restaurant in Bukit Rahman Putera in Sg Buloh? I have actually went to this restaurant previously and they serve good nasi mandy.. Cooked underground!!
I gained 1kg eating all this food in 5 days! Haha.. OK, enough food story..

If you had the chance to stay at the hotels around Masjidil Haram, please do so. All the hotels are connected to the Holy Mosque. You can hear the azan and what the imam is reciting during solat from the speaker in each of the bedroom. You’ll definitely wake up during first azan about one hour before Subuh. You can get up for your tahajjud or get ready to go to the mosque for Subuh. InsyaAllah you will get to solat jemaah on time, everytime..! According to the Saudi’s fatwa, you can follow the imam in Masjidil Haram for solat jemaah from the hotel’s mosque, but not in your room. It’s really helpful if you have small kids because the space is smaller, the crowd is smaller and less likely your child will disappear!! It’s also really good for the elderly, they don’t have to walk so much and safer for them.
That’s us hanging out the the top of Marwah after we finished with our saie :)
Some mommies asked me what medications I brought for my girls. Well, I didn’t actually brought the whole pharmacy with me. I believe God will help us getting through this. I make sure the girls drink a lot of zam zam water, doa for them, make sure they take their meals regularly and getting enough sleep. I didn’t bring them out during afternoon time because the temperature was up to 39 degree Celcius. If we, the adults can get headache with that kind of temperature, I can’t imagine what will it do to my little girls..
How we survived long journey with the girls?
Thank you Steve Jobs!!
The iPad really saves our life. Haha..
Yes, this mom (me!) does cheat sometimes ;)
So, I guess, that is my umrah story and tips. From how we tawaf, saie and solat with the girls to activities we did with them and the food story. Thats all we did over there anyway.. Hope that helps.
Tiring? Yes..
Regret? No..
Experience? Priceless!
XO

Is It Time?

OK mommies..
Let’s just straight to the point..
How soon do you wait for no 3?
I’m just curious. I wanted to have as many children as I can.. InsyaAllah but I think Bella and Tasha still needs attention in term of educating and managing them..
Tasha is 15 months now and B is turning 3 years old in 3 months time.
At home, my husband and I managed the girls ourselves even we have a kakak staying with us to help. And these two toddlers are quiet a handful. Bathing, feeding and play time really taking a lot of time. Night time is spent playing with them.. building blocks, pretend cooking, flash cards, play doctor and watching Doc McStuffin (hahah.. must teach them early!!) I haven’t watch Glee for soooo long! Hahaha.. American Idol? Forget it.. too much commitment!!
Imagine when I’m away and my husband doing this on his own..
(God, I’m so thankful for him!!)1-photo 1
This is what happened when I leave them with daddy..
All sorts of adventures.. Hahaha..
And now Tasha is at the stage where she wants to feed herself. The mess after meal is like..
*I have no word for it!*
and I keep telling myself “she’s learning.. let her learn..” over and over again.. Haha..
And if we leave them alone, they will definitely look for us.. There’s no where to hide at home. It’s like they have GPS tracking to look for us!! Trust them to stuff their face behind the glass door until we come and get them..
So, how long do you wait?
What’s your experience with having 3 children (and two hands to hold all three!) Haha..
XO

Chicken Pox!!

Yes.. Both B and T are down with chicken pox!!

Well, I may write here “down with chicken pox” but to be honest, they are not “down” at all!! They are up and about, super active and cling to me like gam cap gajah!! Haha.. Alhamdullilah…

Last week, B had 3 spots on her face. No fever, just mild runny nose. Well, kids who stays in nursery are bound to have runny nose, right?! So, I didn’t actually take note about the runny nose. Even when there the spots on the face appeared, I still haven’t got any clue!! (doctor mommy here!! Hahaha..) I thought maybe it was just an insect bite, (or even scarier.. mosquito bite!!) So, I started to spray the whole house, and put mosquito repellant all over the place I can!! Until.. it turned into a vesiculopapular rash..

Papule = raised lesion on the skin

Vesicle = fluid- filled cavity

Therefore, vesicopapular = raised lesion on the skin which contains fluid!!

I know that spells T.R.O.U.B.L.E!

I mean.. chicken pox!

I immediately separated B’s stuff from T’s.. like their dirty clothes in separate laundry basket, towels hang far apart, no more sharing water tumbler, cutleries and lalala coz the virus, Herpes Zoster can spread via two routes..

1) air-borne respiratory droplets i.e. sneezing, coughing, runny nose..

2) Vesicle fluid: …. remember that skin lesion containing fluid!!

That dot.. is highly contagious. It will spread the virus if you have direct contact with the fluid inside it. That’s why I tried to separate their clothes and all…

But 3 days later..

Taddaaaa..

T has the same lesions on her trunk! Hahaha…

I don’t know whether to laugh or to cry.. but I’ve decided to take it in a very positive way.. it’s good that both of them had the chicken pox at the same time.. easier to manage!! :D

I’ve consulted my good friend, Dr Zahilah Filzah from doktorbudak.com , according to the expert, antiviral (i.e. acyclovir) only works if it’s given within 24hours of the appearance of the vesicles (Za, correct me if I’m wrong!) if it’s later than that.. there is no scientific evidence that shows the antiviral works. So, forget the medicine, we treat symptomatically only.

What does that means?

That means.. fever medicine is your child is having fever, calamine lotion to help reduce the itchiness, drink a lot of water, try to maintain good oral intake and hand washing is very important to reduce the risk of transmitting the virus.

We were supposed to go to Sabah with my husband because he had an event there but all our plan got cancelled because of these two girls with dots on their body.. Haha.. And I’ve sent the kakak who stays with us balik kampung because we thought we gonna be in Sabah -_-

Here I am having the best time at home taking care of these two angels, being a full time housewife.. even if its only for two days :)

Please excuse me, I’ve got a pile of clothes that needs to be iron, grocery shopping and preparing for dinner..  before my husband comes home. Phewww…

*salute to all stay-at-home-mom*

XO

Self-Love Notes

Few more days before the new year!!
I just love New Year resolution!! There is just something about starting a new year and telling yourself “I’m gonna make this year about bla, bla and bla..” I don’t know how long it will last but at least I have my objectives.. and ALWAYS aim high!! Yes, that’s what I always do.. Aim high! Like an old saying…” Aim for the stars, you might end up with an astronaut!” Haaa.. I just made that up! What I meant is.. aim for the best, if you don’t get it, you know you’ve tried your best..!
Or maybe you can say.. “At least niat tu ada…” Hahaha…
There are few things I need to focus this time.. and the most important thing is to slow down the aging process. Not that I don’t want to grow old.. but I just want to grow old gracefully. I don’t want to look like I’m still 19, I just want to look appropriate for my age. Is it too much to ask for..?
Two of the few things I want to do this year, my skin and fitness level!
Exercise! Exercise! Exercise! Always make time to exercise.
That’s my new mantra. Health is wealth (except that you can’t buy handbag with health! Haha..) but seriously, your health is important in long term run.. It helps to prevent you from lifestyle-related disease like diabetes, hypertension and heart disease… (that’s the doctor-side of me!!) If you’re not healthy, how can you take care of others. And the perk of being fit, is that you’ll lose all the baby fat.. hello toned body!! This baby fat that clings to my body is killing me… If I gained 5kg after every delivery, can you imagine me after 10 children?!! Haaaa…
And then, comes the skin care part.. the most common question I get in my email, blog, tweeter. The number one principal of skin care is always prevention is better than cure (well, that is applied to medicine too!) So, it’s always better to do something today than waiting for it to happen.
As you get older, you’ll notice you need more ‘maintenance’ than when you were in your 20’s!! I can get away with just basic stuff like cleanser, moisturiser and sunblock in my 20’s.. But now, I have to add serum, eye cream, skin supplement and God knows what!! Hahaha.. Yes, as much I hate to admit, that is the fact. I need all the help I can get.
My favourite serum is the SKII Treatment Essence aka the Miracle Water.
I have been using it for almost 10 years, I still remember my first bottle of SKII, it was in 2003, I was in my fourth year medical school and my boyfriend-now-husband bought for me!! Hahaha.. I was so into it until now.. And yes, I spent my JPA scholarship on SKII Miracle Water!! :D
Favourite eye cream… Haih.. I’m not really sure about that. I haven’t found anything that I’m really fond of. I notice that the skin around my eyes looks good when I have enough sleep (which is rare!!) I still haven’t found anyone sell “enough-sleep-in-a-bottle” serum yet.. So, right now, the search is still on…
And skin supplement.. Currently I’m taking this Secret Skin White Kawaii Collagen which has high content of anti-oxidant and stem cells (I need all the help I can get, remember?)
Yes, anti-oxidant is very important in slowing down aging process, in fact it is very good in preventing cancer. Considering our daily lifestyle is highly exposed to free radicals in the environment, supplement of antioxidant is definitely the answer. You can get yours from here..
Of course there’s also new resolution for my career, mommyhood (that includes reading books for B and T every night when I’m not oncall!!) and being a wife (does a promise not to wear ugly but comfy t-shirt at home considered as a resolution?? Haha..) and probably I should be more consistent in writing in my blog!
OK, enough of my new year resolutions. We have a few more days to go before starting fresh in 2014. I’m soooo in my holiday mood right now. Getting together with family is definitely in my agenda.
Happy holiday to all of you!
May Allah bless us all.. InsyaAllah…
XO